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Nicole Chryst

Wellness Educator

 

Chasing truth, beauty, goodness, and all things naturally wholistic.

Faith over fear.

Ephesians 2:8-10

 

I’ve been married to my high school sweetheart since 2003. Together, we have four amazing children, by birth and adoption. When I am not homeschooling my favorite students, I spend my days on our 7-acre property where I try my best to love my family well and experiment with hobby homesteading. My favorite things to do are cultivate my ever-expanding gardens, wrangle chickens, ferment all the things, sourdough bake with einkorn flour, and figure out new ways to use herbs and essential oils. I believe God has tasked us to be good stewards of our spaces in the world, and I guide my children to do the same.


I am a board member of The Sparrow Fund and an Empowered to Connect Facilitator. I love to dig in the dirt, cook nourishing food, capture beauty through my camera lens, watch the sunrise on the beach, and spend time with good literature on my porch while sipping on a hot cup of coffee.

Attaching Through Love, Hugs & Play {Book Review}

I read Attaching Through Love, Hugs, and Play by Deborah Gray last summer while preparing for Dumpling’s arrival.  I really enjoyed the book and took away some terrific nuggets of information.  It’s an attachment book that would be beneficial to be on all adoptive parents’ bookshelves. The author offers a lot of information and encouragement about attachment and gives practical ways to foster connection with children. I especially enjoyed the sensory techniques she suggests to help children bond because I think they also support the parent’s attachment to the child. The information that Gray provides can be applicable to all families, no matter how long children have been home.  I found it helpful even for my other children.  After all, it’s my job as their mama to always connect with them.  Being intentional about that sometimes takes a bit of reminding.

I wish I had read more about attachment when we started down the path of adoption five years ago!  Fortunately we fumbled through Sunshine’s early months home, and she’s very securely attached to both mama and daddy now.  But I’m thankful I educated myself more before bringing Dumpling home.  Especially because he spent three years in an orphanage, we have been extremely intentional with him since the first moments he was in our arms.  I know there are still some questions about why no one else has held him and why we keep him close, but DH and I both feel strongly that these decisions are right for him.  We parent him in ways that may seem strange to others given his age, but we’re ok with that.  He still sleeps in our room.  We bottle feed and then rock him to sleep every night too.  And we intentionally limit physical contact with other adults, even those closest to us.  There will be plenty of time for him to get to know all of the people who love him and have spent hours praying for him.  Right now, we are working on our relationship as mama, daddy, and son.  And thanks to reading Deborah Gray’s book, we were more prepared to do that.

If you are in-process, please read as much as you can about attachment!  Attaching Through Love, Hugs, and Play is a fantastic resource.  Gray also wrote the popular Attaching in Adoption, which is on my to-read list.

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CONTACT ME

Street, Maryland

443.690.2385

nicole@naturallywholistic.com

Affiliate Disclosure

I may earn a small commission for my endorsement, recommendation, testimonial, and/or link to any products or services from this website. Your purchases through affiliate links help support my work in bringing you real information about health and wholistic wellness.

CONTACT ME

Street, Maryland

443.690.2385

nicole@naturallywholistic.com